The Answer lies Within

One sure thing is that nothing is for sure. Nothing in life is Black or White. Each and everything is Grey. The one and only thing you can feel, touch, see, hear precisely are YOU. You are the only one who makes things black or white by the way you see it. 

You may judge people, events, inventions, discoveries, incidents, appearance and a lot more. In fact, you judge everything you sense. Whether it’s a conscious judgment or an unconscious one, you have a conclusion or ‘perception’ of each little thing in your surroundings. And your perception is never exactly the same as that of another individual. 

Always remember, the only thing you can be sure of is YOURSELF. Looking deep within yourself will enable you to discover your unique pattern of thoughts that make you react in a particular pattern. Changing this pattern over time becomes important in order to grow in different directions of Life.  But we are usually unaware of our weaknesses and moreover, we do not have the time to recognize our own perceptions because we are so busy perceiving the outer world. We are unaware of most of our thought patterns. Most of our behavior is automatic. 

Firstly, it is important to know how we perceive ourselves. Having a self-image generally has its own advantage and disadvantage. The advantage is that it makes us feel belonged. But in real we only belong to ourselves. We don’t have to hang on to our self-image over a long period. Our self-image is generally based on past experiences.  We need to focus on our Situation more than we focus on our entire life as a basis of our self-image. If we focus on our entire life as a basis, learned behavior and memories play a part in our decisions, which is irrelevant for our own real situation. 

Secondly, generalization is another important aspect of avoiding conflict. To what extent do we generalize our situations with others? More often than not, we generalize and react to stimuli the way others do, as it’s easier. But sometimes, our outcomes do not match of that of other’s even when we respond to a situation in exactly the same way as they did. 

People around us are our greatest influences. We unknowingly follow their patterns. In this situation, we must just follow our instincts and trust it. Every decision has its own consequences. Courage does not lie in doing the right thing; it lies in being able to bear the consequences of your doings.  Knowing which one is bearable will enable you to take better decisions. 

Lastly, being good is not about the rights and wrongs we have learnt from our ancestors. It is all about knowing what is right or wrong for yourself by experimenting. If you make a mistake, you will only learn from it for a better future. This will just simplify your life. But if you always choose to follow another influence’s pattern, you might never know what could ‘have been’ if you would’ve followed a new pattern. 

Writing our options down and calculating the pros and cons of each option is a good way to make decisions. But an excellent way of making decisions is ‘Following your Gut’.

- The Positive Man