Kick-start your Mental Engine

Our mind plays a very important role in determining how we feel about ourselves. Which category of thinkers do we generalize ourselves with? Why do we always feel there is something missing in us?

 

That incomplete feeling often makes us feel worthless. Every person, even the ones who have everything they ever wished for, go through a long phase of low self-esteem which generates a negative self-concept. Our locus of control often shifts from internal to external in this very phase of life. We are often aware of this difficult phase, but we do not know what to do about it.

 

Too much suppression in the sub-conscious mind often leads to overload. This overload then leads to unreasonable depression which demotivate us to take any further step to improve ourselves. People become stagnant in their thoughts and actions. They are unable to cope with any more negative situations and this often leads to denial.

 

I have thought of some ways that can help everyone to fight de-motivation.

 

Bribe yourself 

Even though bribing is wrong sometimes it can help you cope with demotivating situations. You can always offer yourself a treat in order to complete some work that you do not feel like doing but not doing it could harm your future progress.

For example: some days you might get too bored to go and exercise- this usually happens in the beginnings. You can always cook your favourite meal after a good five kilometre run.

This method would not become a habit if you are aware of your state of mind while doing so.

Plan your days

 

Planning plays a major role in helping us grow. Setting your priorities straight for each day is important in order to steadily complete your tasks. You need to believe in your plan and follow it dedicatedly. 

Add an X-factor to your day 

Every day is a new day. Each day should be treated as a special gift from God. We often imagine ourselves doing certain things but we never succeed in doing them in real. Most of us don’t find the time to complete small tasks. 

Make a ‘wish list’ of things you wish to do. For example: going to office or college by bicycle, visiting a library, reading an important article, picking up some particular article from the store, trying a new wine or anything you have in mind.

Set each activity for a day. These small things give us loads of pleasure. If you are waiting to ‘have enough time’ to do something, just stop waiting and start Acting on it. 

Act immediately 

Too much gap between Thought-Decision-Action can lead to confusion and later lead to regret which may cause depression. Acting as soon as you decide is very important. Don’t let yourself ‘let go’ on something you feel is important. Act before something allows you to feel demotivated. 

Do not generalize situations with your past experiences 

You may have had bad experiences before, do not allow yourself to feel demotivated by generalizing situations with past experiences. Take a Chance. You are not same person that you were yesterday. You may handle situations much more easily as you’ve grown up since you last faced a similar situation. And always remember ‘Nothing happens twice exactly the same way’. Even if you screw up once again, you will learn something more than you learnt the last time you screwed up.

Incorporate these habits in your life and observe the changes. Add your feedback and questions in the comments. I would be more than happy to reply.

In my next article I will expend some knowledge on ‘how we can become aware of the start of our depressed state and combat it before it can get bigger’.

Stay tuned for some more Positive Living Tips. 

-The Positive Man